The Magic of Tapping – Stressful situation turns around overnight

posted Jan 25, 2016, 7:34 PM by Jan Watkins   [ updated Aug 24, 2016, 6:50 AM ]

Before I tap with a client, I will often tell them what they can expect to happen after we clear emotional distress. The reason I do this is because, otherwise, they will not believe that tapping influenced the changes. If they fail to see this connection, the magic of tapping will be lost on them and future tapping opportunities will missed. Here’s one example.

My client, “Ben” called in a state of distress asking to tap on the spot. As a lawyer working for a Wall street firm in New York he was so overwhelmed, he didn’t know what to do. Due to time constraints, our emergency session was very focused on reducing emotional charges without discussing details of the situation he was experiencing. This client is an experienced tapper and so we were able to work quickly, dispensing with story telling and SUDS ratings.

I let Ben start to explain the numerous overwhelming aspects of his current condition. Each time he got to an emotionally charged place, I asked him to switch from his mental state of telling the story to a clear and intentional focus on feeling the emotion coming up, paying particular attention to physical feelings.

First, Ben was dismayed because a colleague had turned out to be less of a team player than Ben had hoped, keeping himself in the limelight without attributing certain work to Ben.  He explained how he felt confused, angry and betrayed. Ben really wanted to discuss the details and mentally figure out what had happened and whether he had done anything to cause the colleague’s apparent shift. I guided him to simply feel each emotion. When you focus on an emotion and there is no resistance, the emotions clear in moments. Confusion quickly gave way to anger, betrayal and sadness.

Next, Ben switched to his distress about being trapped in an out of balance life, believing that he had few viable options for making a life change. Without discussing the reality of the situation, I simply had him feel the feeling of being trapped, explaining briefly that this was surely not a new feeling, but rather one that has and would repeat, unless the original source of it cleared. We didn’t have time to search for and find root causes, so I again directed him to focus fully on feeling trapped.

Rather than tapping globally on this overwhelming job situation, I kept identifying each aspect as it arose and encouraged him to pause and feel each one while tapping. Each time he advanced to another aspect.

A new aspect arose around Ben’s concern that the supervising partner would judge his performance negatively since this partner was unaware of all the facts. I had Ben imagine the partner standing in front of him in a judgmental stance looking skeptical and disapproving. Ben felt that and continued tapping.

We addressed other minor concerns and there was some conversation interspersed in between our focused tapping.

Finally, we ended. Ben was emotionally more calm. Within 12 hours, the following things happened:

1. A major event took place that resulted in the entire work flow being delayed 2 months which will alleviate the extreme pressure he’s been working under.

 2. The partner, out of the blue, sent an email to the bossy colleague essentially validating a piece of Ben’s work the colleague had criticized.

 3. The partner uncharacteristically called Ben for a chat. During the call, the partner suggested that Ben needed some time off This gave Ben the opportunity he’d been looking for to mention  upcoming vacation plans.

Ben reported these events to me the following day and said, “let’s keep tapping.” I had previously told Ben that relief would come when we tapped on the emotions. I even suggested that one possibility that might happen was a delay in the project. More precisely, as emotions cleared, cognitive shifts happened. As we change our underlying core beliefs, our environment  changes to align with these beliefs. Tapping practitioners see this every day and that’s why we love tapping. 

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Winter Blues

posted Jan 17, 2016, 11:45 AM by Jan Watkins   [ updated Aug 24, 2016, 6:50 AM ]

Tap along with this introductory video to learn EFT, whether or not you have winter blues. You won’t get winter blues by tapping along! If the phrase “winter blues” does not resonate for you, you can jot down an issue you’d like to tap on and tap along talking over me with your own words, or just repeating my words. Either way, you will get results. The EFT Clinical Technique, Borrowing Benefits, is at work.

Note: This is a general /global approach to tapping. This is always useful, but to get deeper and profound cognitive shifts and permanent results, it will probably be necessary to tap on specific events. Look for my upcoming specific issue tapping videos and tap along!

June 2014 Quarterly Newsletter

posted Jul 2, 2014, 5:51 AM by Jan Watkins   [ updated Aug 24, 2016, 6:50 AM ]

I have posted my quarterly newsletter with information about my upcoming trainings, a great story about using EFT for Insomnia, and information about my new self-empowering t-shirt that goes along with my Vibrant Healthy Self workshop!

Roots of Physical Problems

posted Jun 23, 2014, 3:36 PM by Jan Watkins   [ updated Aug 24, 2016, 6:52 AM ]

My client, "Jenny" came to me to try EFT for her neck pain. We began using EFT Clinical Tools which included: 
  • exploring events around the time the pain began 
  • how and when symptoms exist and worsen 
  • emotions around the pain 
  • ways the symptoms have been incorporated into her lifestyle 
  • noticing other ways the physical pain impacted her life 
We used the following EFT techniques: 
  • psychological reversal 
  • gentle techniques 
  • talking and tapping 
  • releasing negative emotions 
We discovered that her neck problems began years ago when she was at a crossroads, specifically when she made a permanent commitment to a relationship with her significant other. Once we turned our work toward the dissatisfaction in that relationship and the regret around that decision, the neck pain reduced. 

Her neck pain has become less of an issue in her life and her physical abilities have increased. She feels more confident in her physical strength. We turned our EFT work to her deep dissatisfaction in her relationship, which then led to core emotional work around childhood events with one parent. Today she is stronger physically, emotionally and our sessions are filled with laughter as she discovers more about herself and develops deep compassion for herself and appreciation for her life. She no longer feels stuck. Rather, she is at peace with and she accepts responsibility for her choices. 

With EFT "Tapping", the "energy" or "stuckness" around beliefs, patterns and habits shifts gently, allowing for self-growth. By adding this simple, easy to use tool to your personal and professional work, shifts happen quickly, easily and naturally.

EFT Case Study: Insomnia

posted Jun 23, 2014, 3:25 PM by Jan Watkins   [ updated Aug 24, 2016, 6:52 AM ]

Clients often ask whether EFT will work for a particular issue. EFT will improve any situation you are dealing with. It is a powerful tool to work through any situation.

You can achieve lasting results by thoroughly exploring the roots of an issue. This short 20-minute session from a recent workshop illustrates the effectiveness of approaching an issue using the EFT clinical techniques that you can learn in the workshops.

* The EFT techniques used are bulleted and indicated parenthetically. 

"Susan," not her real name, volunteered to work on her insomnia. Susan explained that she regularly woke in the middle of the night. She would take the first thought or concern that came to her mind and imagine how that thought or concern could develop into the worst possible outcome. 

  • I had her locate in her body exactly how this felt and asked her to describe the pain vividly (specificity, using physical symptoms to address emotional issues). She immediately felt pressure in her chest. 
  • She described it as a fist-sized, dense, sharp, blue pain. Susan rated the sensation at an 8 out of 10 (SUDS). *
  • I asked her if she could recall the first time she felt this feeling and she could not (searching for core events). I then encouraged her to continue feeling the sensation, but to also be aware if any thoughts or memories came to her mind as we began the Set Up statement, "Even though I have this fist-sized, dense, sharp, blue pain in my chest, I accept myself and I'm ok now." 
  • After a round or two of tapping, she recalled a seemingly random memory of a sporting accident. She reported about the accident, "I didn't do what I knew how to do." For the next round we tapped on, "Even though I didn't do what I knew how to do, I deeply and completely love and accept myself" (exact words). 
After a round or two, I asked if she noticed anything. She recalled a memory of sitting outside her parents' bedroom door as a very small child while they argued. She remembered feeling powerless and incapable of doing what needed to be done or of impacting the situation positively. The words came to her mind, "I can't take care of myself." I asked her to focus in her mind and in her body on the child sitting outside that door and to notice how the child felt. We then did a couple of rounds incorporating those words into the set up. I asked her to use the image of the child to check for progress of emotional changes. Sometimes it is easier for a client to focus on an image of his or her child self and notice the emotional reaction the child is having rather than to identify a current emotional response. I asked her what the child needed to know to be alright. She said, "I can take care of myself." 
  • We tapped on the child's emotions until she imagined the child was OK and walked away from the door to her parents' room (using intuition, client-centered process, specific core events). 
Sometimes it is helpful to have the client verbalize true statements that the child was unaware of such as, "that's over, you're ok now, you have more resources, you don't have to stay there to solve that problem." You can use your intuition to guide the session. These memories represent the experiences that our early developing brain generalizes for survival purposes. 
  • Our brain will form conclusions, such as, "I can't take care of myself" (table legs, table tops). Until this limiting learning is updated, the brain will continue to operate under that program. 
  • I then asked Susan to locate the dense sharp pain in her chest. She rated it at a 4. We returned our focus to the physical sensation until it was a zero (testing and aspects). We finished our short demonstration there. 
Susan emailed me later: 

"I woke, as usual, during the night to use the bathroom, which is when the thoughts rush forward the fastest, are the most vivid, and have the strongest emotional impact. It took me a minute to realize that it didn't happen, but didn't get too excited about it...yet. When I woke up in the morning, again it took a few seconds to realize that it hadn't happened! I've noticed the same thing ever since! As an experiment, I've even tried to start my thoughts going toward some terrible end, but I can't even really do that - doesn't all! It truly is amazing! I am so thrilled and thankful."

Not all sessions work in this way or this quickly. It is important to be inquisitive and to remember that the client generally has what he or she needs to work through an issue (client-centered process). If you are working on yourself, use these same principles for great results.

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